Cold weather rebel

[Lee-Bee]

I would do exactly as the ladies above do. As much as I strongly agree with not making it in to a battle and letting the child learn that being too strong willed to wear a sweater means they get cold. Group care is not the place to be allowing this as it does get other kids to follow suit some of the other kids are not old enough to understand/learn from the natural consequence (being cold).

Let them control the battle...but the consequence is now that they are cold and bored. And, hopefully even colder for sitting still on a bench and not running around to be warm. In time they will cave and learn that being strong willed can mean missing out on the fun.

I would give the child one discussion on it. Let them know they can decide whether or not to wear their sweater (and what ever else). But, unless they are fully dressed they do not participate. Then I would have the same discussion with the full group. Now that it is autumn we are expected to wear (list items) if you don't wear those items you do not participate.

Then when you get outside list of the kids that can play and those that cannot...sit them down in sight, with their extra clothing items and let them know when the yare fully dressed you will know they are ready to play otherwise they are expected to sit in that spot until it is time to go in.

And last of all...save your most fun of games and activities for the times a child choses to sit out.

By the way, this is my 2.5yr old daughter. Not that she doesn't want to wear the items so much as she doesn't want to stop and focus long enough to put the items on. I am lucky in that with it being my daughter I can tell her she has 2 more minutes to be dressed or we go out to play without her. I've only had to leave her a few times but she gets herself dressed incredibly fast when she is left inside on her own. I expect making the child sit out nearby without playing will have the same effect.

[torontokids]

I would do exactly as the ladies above do. As much as I strongly agree with not making it in to a battle and letting the child learn that being too strong willed to wear a sweater means they get cold. Group care is not the place to be allowing this as it does get other kids to follow suit some of the other kids are not old enough to understand/learn from the natural consequence (being cold).


Let them control the battle...but the consequence is now that they are cold and bored. And, hopefully even colder for sitting still on a bench and not running around to be warm. In time they will cave and learn that being strong willed can mean missing out on the fun.

I would give the child one discussion on it. Let them know they can decide whether or not to wear their sweater (and what ever else). But, unless they are fully dressed they do not participate. Then I would have the same discussion with the full group. Now that it is autumn we are expected to wear (list items) if you don't wear those items you do not participate.

Then when you get outside list of the kids that can play and those that cannot...sit them down in sight, with their extra clothing items and let them know when the yare fully dressed you will know they are ready to play otherwise they are expected to sit in that spot until it is time to go in.

And last of all...save your most fun of games and activities for the times a child choses to sit out.

By the way, this is my 2.5yr old daughter. Not that she doesn't want to wear the items so much as she doesn't want to stop and focus long enough to put the items on. I am lucky in that with it being my daughter I can tell her she has 2 more minutes to be dressed or we go out to play without her. I've only had to leave her a few times but she gets herself dressed incredibly fast when she is left inside on her own. I expect making the child sit out nearby without playing will have the same effect.

You leave her inside, alone? How do you do this? Is someone else home or is she in her bed and you have a monitor?

[Lee-Bee]

You leave her inside, alone? How do you do this? Is someone else home or is she in her bed and you have a monitor?

No one else is home. She's my daughter (wouldn't do this with anyone's kid. She doesn't like missing out on what her friend and I are doing quickly gets herself dressed and comes to the window to tell me.

But she allowed to stay inside to play while we do yard work if she prefers, or she can play outside while I am inside cooking (fenced in yard that I can monitor). We check in from time to time. She is used to being off in the house playing on her own...our being outside isn't much different. Obviously we don't leave her for really long periods and we don't leave our property, but she doesn't require constant supervision. She knows what in the house she can and cannot play with and what areas of the house she can and cannot be in on her own.

Obviously it is different with daycare children but with our daughter we purposely raise her to be able to play on her own without direct supervision. We also expect that as she grows she will spend more and more time outside on her own. I grew up heading out in the morning and coming back for lunch and supper. Society today is doing things differently...and sadly it often results in children that do not know how to function without direct and constant supervision. Children are capable of a lot more than we give them credit for.

[33 Daiseys]

I have the same rule for my kids. Just because I am running a business does not mean that they have to do everything that we do. They can play in their rooms, watch movies basically do what ever they want.