Attachment Parentinng

[ottawamommy]

How everyone feel about attachment parenting in terms of the children you get as clients not your own?

I have personally found it so much harder to transition a child that has been raised using attachment parenting & nursed vs a child that hasn't or uses a bottle.

Majority of my clients recently are ones who are involved with attachment parenting and it is getting really hard because some of the expectations. I need a lot of help/guidance because I don't know what should be doing and what I shouldn't. I want to make everyone happy but I know realistically I can't.

I have a child (11 month DCG) who has been raised using this method. The parents are a same sex couple (females) and I feel that the mother who didn't give birth feels that the child won't be as attached to her once daycare starts because she won't take that time with her and because I don't carry babies and use that method here.

They are worried about her napping (so am I) because she needs to be worn or nursed to sleep. I AGREED to wear the baby with their carrier temporary to help with the transition but I figured out quickly I can't because I can't wear her all day and if I wear her for short periods of time she cries even more and to be honest with 5 kids it's impossible. I have a helper and I think they will suggest that she wears the baby but I don't think that's right nor do I feel like it will help with gaining independence for sleep.

I got the child to nap today and I honestly didn't think I ever would have. What I did was put her in a play pen, she started crying of course and would go in and hold her then put her back down(would always be standing) every 10 mins. After 45 mins of going in and out every 10 mins she eventually gave in and napped.

They were pretty upset as they think I let her cry for 10 mins without doing anything but I do not see any other options.

Please help and let me know what I can do to fix this or what another alternative would be. Mom also wanted to come at nap time and nurse her so she would sleep and I thought that was a very bad idea but let me know your thoughts I am open to ANYTHING!

Thank you