Attachment Parentinng

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Don't let her come back at nap time to nurse the baby to sleep. Not only will that be so confusing for the little one, but it's not fair for the other children. Right at nap time, when they are all exhausted, they will not understand why little janie gets her mommy to snuggle but they don't. You'll have a house full of exhausted upset children.

As hard as it will be, I think you'll need to stand your ground. If they felt that strongly about AP, I'm surprised they didn't specifically seek out an AP provider or a nanny.

For what it's worth, I've used a few AP principles with my kids and when I was preparing to put my oldest into daycare, I made sure to ensure that I had a caregiver that wouldn't do cry it out BUT I also took the time before I went back to work to ensure my son was able to be put down awake. I didn't just tell the DCP "no crying it out" and hand her my baby who had never gone to sleep on his own. It was important to me that he didn't lay in a playpen and cry, so I made sure he had the skills that he wouldn't need to.