Ultimately they need to decide to give a little on their expectations on group care or get a nanny. They will soon find that they can't just go to another home daycare as very few home daycares will be able to accommodate wearing a child for naps. The caregiver NEEDS to have a chance to pee, eat, clean, and rest while the children are napping.

Let them know what you are comfortable with. If they are not comfortable with that they will need to remove their child from care and find a suitable situation for their child.

I will admit that I have had AP children here and I just did not tell the full truth as to how they adapted when it came to naps. The children adapted just fine with a bit of time and all was well...but the parents don't need to know that they cried for a bit. I softened the truth for the parents. I did it because these families really had no other choice ALL the other home daycares they went to turned them away when they admitted to being AP (or what they call AP). The other home daycares flat out said they would not accommodate the fact that the kids had NO NAP ROUTINE at all.

I put a bit of extra time in with the kids at the start (never rocking to sleep but standing and rubbing backs for a bit etc. But, once I left I did not return to the room. That just sets them off again. I lucked out that the kids were all too exhausted from a day with other kids to fight the sleep for the first week or two and by then they knew that nap was different here.

I had one AP child (12months) that was held for all naps and night at home resist sleeping. Never cried but SAT trying to stay awake. She'd fall asleep and fall over, sit back up shaking her head to wake up and SIT. Took 9 WEEKS!!! Then she was the BEST SLEEPER ever. 3 hour naps each day.

There is hope with these kids but the reality is...it won't be like home.