Good Lord! I HATE AP!!

[ottawamommy]

I have had it and I am at my wits end with dcgb!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is AP (attachment parenting) and she is wild in every way imaginable!!

Please help

[Wonderwiper]

NEXT!!!

Seriously....I honestly couldn't deal with that! I have never terminated either but that kid would not have lasted that long here.

[babydom]

I have a list of NOT TAKES when it comes to interviewing.

1. Cop parents
2. Lawyer parents
3. CAS parents
4. AP parents

I do not even go there. I still to this day can't believe a parent would do this to a child!! How mean is it to set your little one up for failure when u know ur going back to work to parent that way then throw them in a group setting? So unfair to everyone involved...child and provider. Either stay home, don't do AP or only do it for 6mths then wean them or get a NANNY!

And for the record your a strong patience provider cuz there's no way I'd be doing a forth wk with another new child coming in.....lol. Good luck!!

[Lee-Bee]

Wouldn't giving the 4th week mean you no longer have the ability to terminate and keep the deposit?

[Lee-Bee]

I'll also use this chance to (once again) point out that AP gets a bad rap because a lot of parents today claim to be AP when really they are just lacking in the skills needed to be a parent and be in control. True AP parenting does not result in children that rule the house and control the parents every move...that is merely a family that has NOT set boundaries. AP is about setting those boundaries in a very gentle manner...AP is NOT about the lack of boundaries.

A TRUE AP child should not be sleep deprived and should not be eating only a select foods that they demand. That is a child that has be given complete control. This is something that pisses me off, don't use AP as an excuse not to parent and not to prepare children for the real world. Life is going to SUCK for these children when they grow up and learn that they aren't the rulers of the universe.

[Suzie_Homemaker]

I have had it and I am at my wits end with dcg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is AP (attachment parenting) and she is wild in every way imaginable. Even when she eats she deliberately looks at me (complete eye contact) SPITS her food out at me and makes a movement thing with her lips and smiles after I say no!!!!!!!WHENEVER food is involved!!

I have asked the parents to start getting her to sleep independently and I don't think they have because there has been no improvement with napping in the last 3 weeks. We have one good day and 4 shit days. It don't think it's my job to suffer and loosing 10 years of my life dealing with a wild child if they are at home rocking and carrying!!!

I asked today if she is sleeping independently and they told me they co sleep with her. Which I think is complete bull-shit they are still rocking her and I don't even know if this co sleeping thing is any good.

I have never in my career had to terminate a child and I feel really bad but my nerves are shot!

In my contract it states word for word "In the case that a child is not properly adjusting to daycare within a 3 week timeframe, the provider may terminate the contract and retain the full deposit"

I am giving them one more week (4 weeks in total) and I think that's fair. I have a new child starting next week too that I have transition as well so I don't think it's fair to the new child either.

Although agree if you had enough, you should term, be careful.

If your contract say you can term if not adjust in 3 weeks, and keep deposit, and you wait until week 4, it might be that you have give normal notice and apply deposit as would with long term person leaving.

[ottawamommy]

I shake when she comes here lol
I'm so tired!

[Suzie_Homemaker]

She mentioned some shhhing method where you lay the child down 60 times in an hour or something and sush them? No one has time for that.

I would ask her who she think supervising other children when you sushing their child and if, when their child older and maybe not napping, would they be okay with their child not supervised while you co napping or sushing younger child. I bet they not be okay if their child unsupervise when you doing this for someone else.

[Lee-Bee]

Quote Originally Posted by ottawamommy View Post

She mentioned some shhhing method where you lay the child down 60 times in an hour or something and sush them? No one has time for that.
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This is what should be done when the child is an older infant, long before they start daycare. It cannot be expected of the daycare provider. It is a gentle way to teach them to eventually sleep on their own. But, it needs to be done early and consistently at home.

[ottawamommy]

Quote Originally Posted by ottawamommy View Post

She mentioned some shhhing method where you lay the child down 60 times in an hour or something and sush them? No one has time for that.
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This is what should be done when the child is an older infant, long before they start daycare. It cannot be expected of the daycare provider. It is a gentle way to teach them to eventually sleep on their own. But, it needs to be done early and consistently at home.

yup see not my job that would be something they should have been doing at 6 months