Good Lord! I HATE AP!!

[babydom]

My understanding is that co sleeping is apart of AP as they are always attached to the parent. Isn't AP also mean child led? So lee-bee doesn't AP parents give in and do what their child wants to keep them happy? That's how I understood it. Lol. Please clarify as I love to learn about parenting styles.

[Lee-Bee]

My understanding is that co sleeping is apart of AP as they are always attached to the parent. Isn't AP also mean child led? So lee-bee doesn't AP parents give in and do what their child wants to keep them happy? That's how I understood it. Lol. Please clarify as I love to learn about parenting styles.

NO! That's just what we have turned it into.
It is about being in tune with our child. It is not about being physically attached to them 24/7 till they go to school and it is not about them controlling everything.

It is about holding them when they need comfort. It is being kind and gentle...sure you can avoid the word "no" but you don't let them do anything they want...you redirect and guide them to what you want them to do without being harsh etc. It does not mean they can do anything they want.

AP still has discipline but it is about being preventative instead of reactive. It is about taking the time to use the situation as a learning opportunity but you STILL DISCIPLINE.

Most of all, AP still means the mom (and dad) take time to care for themselves and meet their own needs). AP is not about putting the child first and neglecting everyone else. That just leads to a complete breakdown of the family.

Like I say AP has a bad rap because we have turned it into something that is detrimental to the child and family.