I believe that all reading this would 100% agree it is an abusive relationship. I think outside professional support and help is needed, before just bolting. I think a support system needs to be in place. If her partner acts this way now, I fear how she may possible act should leaving be mentioned. Her partner could accuse her of acting inappropriately with the daycare children, or attempt a character bash preventing poster from being able to secure future clients. If things have got physical before, things could escalate during separating. I'm concerned and just want her to have some more resources/support/guidance etc.