It sounds like she is VERY insecure. While controlling it sounds like she won't let you watch those movies or change the boys diapers out of fear that you might realize "WAIT A MINUTE I WANT TO BE WITH A MAN, NOT HER".

She needs to have some therapy to get over this. She is very worried about your past and that is isn't enough for you.

It DOES NOT mean you did or are doing or will do anything wrong...but she is in fear that you will. This is on her not on you.

So, you need to sit down and decide. Do you love her, truly and deeply, enough that you want this to work. If yes then get both of you into counselling both couples and individual. Help her over come the fear she is living in so she isn't controlling you. The couples therapy will help the dynamics between the both of you. Her therapy with help HER gain confidence. Your therapy will help you realize you are not the one to blame for your past and you are not responsible for how she is feeling/acting.