What would you do?

[Lee-Bee]

I just found put tonight that there 11 month old is unable to hold a bottle on her own, eat anything that isnt completely mush ( no chunks or else she gags and pukes) sit up for more than a couple minutes with out falling or crawl at all. This can not be normal!? Next month I. Take her for half days it will.be like having a 9 month old....

I don't think you can judge 'normal' until you have had the child for awhile. Many kids enter daycare unable to hold a bottle as they haven't had the chance to try. I have known many kids that age and older that can't handle chunks in their food...because they were given the pureed mush for too long...they need to be trained to handle it. It is NOT a sign of anything being wrong...just a sign that the parents haven't given them the chance.

Until you have the child and give them time to adapt to the new expectations you can't judge that anything is amiss. If after weeks of being trained to hold the bottle and eat the chunks they still have trouble then you can raise the red flags.

I had a 12 month old start that couldn't stand for more than a second. They had never had the chance at home, being held 24/7. Within days the child was like wait a minute and was trying to copy her friends. Within a few weeks the child was walking. She was given the opportunity and gained the desire to do it on her own. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the child she just hadn't been given the opportunity nor had the desire to stand and walk based on her life experiences.

Ideal? No. But these are not red flags yet.

That said you have had concerns with this family already. You need to commit to seeing your contract through or you need to give notice now. Giving notice now is okay. But waiting until January to terminate will put them in a really tough spot and isn't really fair if you are not in the mindset to be trying to help them settle into care and committing to making it work. If you don't want these children in your care give them notice now.