I feel sorry for that 3 year old boy. It's hard as the provider because we are not the parents and if the parents aren't doing their job at home it makes our job so much harder. But just from experience, I'm guessing that little boy has early signs of a communication disorder - a mild form of autism perhaps or Asperger's. I know it sounds judgmental, but I recognize some of the problems you're talking about. He might need to be assessed. You should tell the parents about the struggles you're having with him, as some of the things you mentioned should not be issues at the age of 3.

Of course, it's exhausting and you are not the parent. All you can do is advocate for that little boy. He should definitely be able to master the fork and pull up his pants by 3.

I'm sorry I just got caught up in that issue and not the other one you were talking about. He will have a very hard time in school and needs to be assessed asap to make sure there is not something more going on there.