Good morning Ladies!

Firstly I would like to thank everyone here for their opinions and advice. It's so nice to have somewhere to discuss things.

Today I am looking for advice regarding my dhb. I posted previously when he started in my care in August. He is a very angry 4 year old. I almost terminated care but we worked through it and slowly he started having more good days than bad. Well, now i have my second dayhome kid (and 2 of my own) but this boy is extremely jealous and has started having epic tantrums.

On Friday he had the worst ones ever. My daughter got an award at school that day so I took the kids to watch. DHB wouldn't behave with my son so I went to have him sit on the other side of me and he threw himself to the ground, flailed around and sobbed uncontrollably. I managed to calm him down so we could watch the award and then we left right after.

Later that afternoon he refused to eat his snack. He sat at the table complaining. After quite awhile sitting I told him it was time to get our boots and coats on to go and pick up my daughter, he then started yelling that he was going to eat now. I told him that he would need to wait now until after we got back. The kid refused to move. I went to lift him off of his chair, he then threw his 54lbs down out of my arms, sat on the floor and started yelling that I pushed him off his chair. I told him that I didn't and would never push him. He got louder and insisted that I was mean and pushed him. I had to carry him to the door and he wouldn't help me put his boots or coat on, he just kept making whiney noises. After 5 minutes in the van, he got over it and acted like there was nothing wrong.

I had been giving him time outs but now he goes to time outs himself after small issues with sharing etc. I then tell him that he isn't in a time out and he cries that he is and tells me that I am mad at him. He then won't leave the spot for sometimes 10 minutes. when I actually do give him a time out he cries for 10 minutes, I speak with him and he walks away happier than happy. I'm sure that it is all for attention but not sure what my next move should be. It's getting exhausting. And he's 4 having 2 year old tantrums.....sigh