Very needy baby

[Lee-Bee]

I'm just wondering, why do you suggest never to wear a baby? I find it makes the tasks like cleaning up snack time etc much easier, especially with this baby. She would scream and cry hard even if I put her down for a minute. Tia

Thanks for the great answers everyone ��

There tend to be 2 approaches to this. One is to start from day one (minute one) with getting the child used to what they ultimately need to be used to. In a daycare with 5 young children (in most homedaycares) the children all need to be used to entertaining themselves and being on their own as the caregiver tends to the other children. The thought is that it is an easy adjustment to the child (and everyone else) if the child enters and is taught the expectations immediately.

For others, they give the child some leeway for the first few weeks then once adjusted they start changing so the child adapts to being on the floor while the caregiver is busy. This can work easily for some children but can be yet another adjustment for other children. They got used to baby wearing, are now comfortable and you take baby wearing out and they just are not happy about it.

Different caregivers do it different ways but I would say the majority more or less start with the child adapting to the day homes ways from the start.

Another key part is the caregivers healthy and sanity. It can be wearing on their mind and body to be wearing children everyday. They are in this career for decades....it is different than raising a wearing a few of your own children that out grow it soon enough.

You need to decide what works for you and what you feel most comfortable with. It is important to think longer term too. Will you have more children starting soon? Do you plan to wear 2 children or ditch the first child and wear the newest. How will the child now feel about being worn all the time one day and then not any more when the "new kid" starts etc. Are you suffering back pain, limb pain and fatigue by the end of the day?

I would think it is safe to say a lot of us start out trying to do everything for new children (baby wear, rock and hold through nap, never put them down, never let them cry). As they transition more and more children and as they are in this career longer they change their ways and have the children just adapt to the environment how it is. It is just a function or experience and survival!