Help me!! :(

[Lee-Bee]

Does he cry after nap? How long is he awake before he goes home? Is he the same in this period or different?

It does just sound like he is choosing to cry because he isn't getting what he wants (what ever that may be) and if home is catering to him then all the more likely he is crying because he isn't being catered to. But I can't help but wonder if he could be sick in some way. Maybe he is like this at home (hence the sisters annoyance) but there is a root cause. Possible ear infection or stomach problem that is bothering him? He was really sick as an infant could there still be something wrong? Not sure how you would pin down what if it has been going on so long.

Can you fit a high chair in the play room to put him in when crying? Or a playpen outside the playroom but close? If it is just behavioral I think the child will need a very clear consequence to the crying to learn to stop it. It could just be so ingrained in him at this point that he doesn't even know what to do with himself. In the least...you and the other kids deserve some distance from it and a playpen really would help. Especially for the poor sister that he follows at times.

Can the sister speak enough to answer questions about his behavior at home? When he is just crying for no reason can you ask her if he does that at home. If so, what does mom do? Maybe get some info from her? Obviously take it with a grain of salt...kids distort reality lol.

[babydom]

Does he cry after nap? How long is he awake before he goes home? Is he the same in this period or different?

It does just sound like he is choosing to cry because he isn't getting what he wants (what ever that may be) and if home is catering to him then all the more likely he is crying because he isn't being catered to. But I can't help but wonder if he could be sick in some way. Maybe he is like this at home (hence the sisters annoyance) but there is a root cause. Possible ear infection or stomach problem that is bothering him? He was really sick as an infant could there still be something wrong? Not sure how you would pin down what if it has been going on so long.

Can you fit a high chair in the play room to put him in when crying? Or a playpen outside the playroom but close? If it is just behavioral I think the child will need a very clear consequence to the crying to learn to stop it. It could just be so ingrained in him at this point that he doesn't even know what to do with himself. In the least...you and the other kids deserve some distance from it and a playpen really would help. Especially for the poor sister that he follows at times.

Can the sister speak enough to answer questions about his behavior at home? When he is just crying for no reason can you ask her if he does that at home. If so, what does mom do? Maybe get some info from her? Obviously take it with a grain of salt...kids distort reality lol.

Besides from normal baby teething it's not health. He has reg doc appts and we know he is healthy. I'm every honest with mom and she is with me. Her and dad have both said he cries a lot. Why does he always cry. Xxx is our little diva and our boy is our crier. Sister is just 2.5, 3 in April. So don't get much out of her. Mom says they don't pick him up they let him cry then go to him. But how long? She probably leaves him crying for a min then goes and carries him around. I honestly think it's behavioural. I will have to do the playpen thing. Although what makes me nervous is that I think it will bite me in the butt. He will stop crying and "be happy" in the playpen so I'll take him out and he'll cry again to go in it. I can't keep him a playpen all morning. He's smart that way. He'll play me. Lol

[flowerchild]

I honestly think it's behavioural. I will have to do the playpen thing. Although what makes me nervous is that I think it will bite me in the butt. He will stop crying and "be happy" in the playpen so I'll take him out and he'll cry again to go in it. I can't keep him a playpen all morning. He's smart that way. He'll play me. Lol

Is it possible he's feeling overwhelmed by the number of kids and toys that are around and would feel more comfortable playing in the playpen? I've found that some kids like a bit of down time in a playpen with a few toys when they are feeling overwhelmed. Less of a punishment and more of a break.

Otherwise, it sounds like you'll have a long day or two of putting him in when he cries and taking him out when he stops, but if you are consistent, he will get it and stop.

[babydom]

Is it possible he's feeling overwhelmed by the number of kids and toys that are around and would feel more comfortable playing in the playpen? I've found that some kids like a bit of down time in a playpen with a few toys when they are feeling overwhelmed. Less of a punishment and more of a break.

Otherwise, it sounds like you'll have a long day or two of putting him in when he cries and taking him out when he stops, but if you are consistent, he will get it and stop.

No not at all. He loves the kids. Follows them around. And has spouts of happy yelling when they jump around him. And he loves playgroup. There's always 20 kids there and he doesn't even look for me the whole time were there and is happy the whole time. I truely believe it hates me and this home. Hahaha. It's totally behavioural

[Lee-Bee]

I can't help but feel that he MIGHT "hate" you and your home because you enforce rules and order on him. Odds are that this child that comes from a home where HE rules everything will someday come to LOVE you and your home for that very reason.

As much as children want and try to rule everything there is nothing more scary for a child to realize they are in control not the adult. They NEED their adults to be in control. Even the most demanding, little princes and princesses can come to love a daycare that provides that security and order in their life.

I do hope he comes to realize this and becomes one of your best little daycare kids for you. Till then...hang in there!