Help me!! :(

[babydom]

Thank u so much everyone for all the thoughts, questions to make me think and ideas to try. The more I talked this out here, I think it's got to be behavioural. Playpen time outs here we come!

[flowerchild]

I honestly think it's behavioural. I will have to do the playpen thing. Although what makes me nervous is that I think it will bite me in the butt. He will stop crying and "be happy" in the playpen so I'll take him out and he'll cry again to go in it. I can't keep him a playpen all morning. He's smart that way. He'll play me. Lol

Is it possible he's feeling overwhelmed by the number of kids and toys that are around and would feel more comfortable playing in the playpen? I've found that some kids like a bit of down time in a playpen with a few toys when they are feeling overwhelmed. Less of a punishment and more of a break.

Otherwise, it sounds like you'll have a long day or two of putting him in when he cries and taking him out when he stops, but if you are consistent, he will get it and stop.

[babydom]

Is it possible he's feeling overwhelmed by the number of kids and toys that are around and would feel more comfortable playing in the playpen? I've found that some kids like a bit of down time in a playpen with a few toys when they are feeling overwhelmed. Less of a punishment and more of a break.

Otherwise, it sounds like you'll have a long day or two of putting him in when he cries and taking him out when he stops, but if you are consistent, he will get it and stop.

No not at all. He loves the kids. Follows them around. And has spouts of happy yelling when they jump around him. And he loves playgroup. There's always 20 kids there and he doesn't even look for me the whole time were there and is happy the whole time. I truely believe it hates me and this home. Hahaha. It's totally behavioural

[Lee-Bee]

I can't help but feel that he MIGHT "hate" you and your home because you enforce rules and order on him. Odds are that this child that comes from a home where HE rules everything will someday come to LOVE you and your home for that very reason.

As much as children want and try to rule everything there is nothing more scary for a child to realize they are in control not the adult. They NEED their adults to be in control. Even the most demanding, little princes and princesses can come to love a daycare that provides that security and order in their life.

I do hope he comes to realize this and becomes one of your best little daycare kids for you. Till then...hang in there!

[flowerchild]

I think Lee-Bee has hit the nail on the head. He probably doesn't know what way is up if he's catered to all the time at home.

I find the kids that often have the hardest transitions are the kids who have little to no structure or boundaries at home and a strong personality. That seems to be a brutal mixture. They get away with everything at home and then come to your house where they are expected to follow rules and accept consequences and they don't know what to do. It's so confusing for them. BUT once they figure out that is how it works at your house, they are fine and I do believe the structure and routine are comforting for them.

Good luck!