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    I have a DCG that will be three next month. These past few weeks she has been refusing to dress herself to go outside. I have to get her dressed. Once dressed she refuses to go ourside. I have to escort her out. Once we come back in she gets a timeout for not listening to me. At pickup time she does the same for mom. She has Been doing this for mom for a few months everytime they have to go somewhere. I'm losing patience with this behaviour. I have a 15 month old I have to dress. The 2 year old is perfectly capable of dressing herself. Any suggestions?

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    Outdoor playtime is only for kids that are cooperative and get themselves dressed. If she does not dress herself and walk herself out she sits on a bench/chair and watches the others play.

    Inform of this tomorrow morning and remind her right before you start getting dressed. After that it is 100% up to her. If you need to help for ANYTHING (that you know she is capable of) she forfeits playtime. Be really firm the first many times so she has to sit out and feel the consequence of being uncooperative. She'll eventually learn that it doesn't pay to be this way.

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    She winning. She not want get herself dressed, you/Mom giving in and doing it for her. Tell her one time to get dressed. If she not do it, pick up her coat, hat, mittens, and her if need to, and put her outside. Then tell her that she need to put things on or she will get cold, and leave her get on with it while other play.
    If not want do that, they stop telling her get dressed when you know she will refuse and win. It just confirming she is person with power each time she win this battle. And she know how win it.

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    I have a stubborn little dcgirl too...she'll be 3 in May. I love her to pieces as she reminds me of me sometimes haha. I think that everyone has a bit of stubbornness in them and it can be a positive personality trait sometimes. However, bad and mean behaviour is not acceptable. I discipline for those behaviours and not the stubbornness.

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    I have never had a child refuse to get dressed or go outside but I do like how Suzie would handle it.

    I find too many times children are given too many options. She is getting her way by refusing to do certain things. I never ask kids I always tell them, they know that it isn't optional

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    Been there many times. Did the stand outside no coat thing with my own son and he just literally screamed outside (im sure the neighbours wondered). It's tough...i've used reverse at times "I know u don't like going outside, so u don't need to get dressed... We"ll see u back here when we're done playing outside." Has worked so far with my dcks. Not sure what to do if they call my bluff!

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    Been there a few times too. I require the kids to do the things I know they can do. So if they can get dressed, then they have to do it themselves. If they don't, they go out in sock feet, no coat, etc. Most kids, if they take it this far, will do that once, hate it and learn the lesson. However, there are some kids, who don't seem to learn this lesson. I have had 2 kids over the years who did this many, many times, every winter for years. I just have to think, you're gonna have a tough life, kid.

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    It's difficult when they behave this way....sometimes I HAVE to dress them just to get out the door....they are screaming..i just block it out and be on my way....let the child know it doesn't bother me! lol....as far as pick up time, I have 3...THREE out of the 4 or 5 I have on a given day, that refuse to co-operate for the parent at pick up....started taking 10-15 minutes before the parent got the kid out...I PUT A STOP TO THAT! I told each of the 3 parents to TEXT me when they were 5 minutes from my house....the child would get dressed...and I have the front door open and it's BY BY...SIMPLE.....if the parent forgets to text me, I open the door but tell them to stay behind the door til their child is ready....I don't let them in....put up with that nonsense far too long and WON'T DO IT ANYMORE!

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