Terming an infant

[bright sparks]

This child is BUSY at home too, but 2 parents are there to deal with one busy child. Not the same ratios here! I must clarify that the high chair is used for 2-3 mins at a time just to have my hands free, not to give him a time out. The rest of the group are in diapers, so in the time it takes to do the rest of them, he has topped toy buckets, got his hands in other peoples cream&wipes, pulled the paint/glue off the art table and smeared it on the floor, emptied other people's cubbies etc. I'm totally serious... During diapering time this child can easily destroy about 5-6 things while I've got my hands in feces. It's very difficult. He can climb couches and stairs, and my front/back outside steps easily. I'm familiar with high needs kids, both professionally, and personally. My school age son has ADHD, and the "into everything" behaviour, and extreme strength and no fear for personal safety looks very similar to me, only we didn't see it until about 15 months. He moves rediculously fast! I have the superyard outside on the deck with the extension kit, so it's a good size. I don't want to anchor it to the brick or deck, for damage reasons. He just pushes it right off the deck. My pressure mounted gates blocking off different rooms of the house(kitchen), he just shakes them violently until they loosen, and he climbs over it. Thankfully all my stair gates are screwed down. Not sure about the heavy work idea, as he only stays at one spot about 15 seconds, so actually getting him to hold something or do a task is impossible. I keep thinking about the weighted backpack idea that I was given for my son(but he was 2.5 at the time) This child is small for his age, so don't think that would work.
I'm so at a loss here. I can terminate for developmental reasons, so I do have an "out" if necessary. The attention to the other kids is suffering, and I feel bad for taking on this child so young, but I didn't imagine him to be this busy. It's draining...

Sounds like there is more to this than meets the eye. I've read the other posts about working on his behaviour, but your last post really makes me stick to my opinion. I think this kid is a massive liability and his age is a massive obstacle when it comes to communication barriers and effective disciplining due to cognition and comprehension development. How does he respond if you raise your voice or tell him off for these behaviours? Does he cry when you are stern with him? The speed in which he moves and is destructive as you describe, sounds like a clustered set of behaviours and given that you mentioned he is small for his age doesn't actually add up. I get that some kids are bruisers, but destructive behaviour at just 12 months isn't considered "normal" behaviour in my book. I have 2E child so don't think for one minute I use the word normal easily. But within the massive range of what is considered normal behaviour, this does not fit.

[Crayola kiddies]

How about the word "no" .... Does that work ?

[Busy ECE mommy]

He looks at me if I use a stern "no" or "stop" and keeps right on moving. Don't know if he's processing it all cognitively at this age. He doesn't cry or get upset if I get stern with him.

[Busy ECE mommy]

I might add I found out this child met gross motor milestones like rolling/sitting/crawling about 2 months ahead of most kids(didn't find out until after he started) Also feels/looks like he has very high muscle tone.

[Van]

I am drained just imagining it !!!! terminate him for your sanity