Pulling my hair out...

[Suzie_Homemaker]

It might sound harsh but I never pick up new kids when they cry, unless hurt. I make a point not pick them up. They go onto the floor. I interact at their level but not pick up. I give lot of attention but not pick up. As soon as the child is calm, that when I pick up. If we having story time and new child calm with me close, I move child onto my lap. As soon as they do the attention cry, they go down again. Still interacting but not pick up.
For me, this has been the most successful way of child know that there lot of love and attention here but not possible when they just crying to demand it. I be very hard but it been what work best for me. Only time I pick up new child, is to put in high chair, stroller, crib or to change diaper.