You are right in feeling disrespected. Some people feel like everyone "owes them something" - it seems like these neighbours fit that description. I'm struggling to deal with a family like that. Either terminate or get really good at saying no (I'm getting so much better!). I gave up my classroom teaching to soak up this precious time with my kids too. While we certainly meet our fair share of "turkeys" in this business, it's still worth it.
Hugs.