Quote Originally Posted by MommaL View Post
I'm just curious how involved your spouses/partners are in your daycare? I know that my opening a daycare has affected my spouse and our family in many ways and I am very fortunate that he has been so supportive of me doing this. However, his helpfulness is actually starting to create some tension between us. He's always making suggestions for the daycare (e.g. how to market it, thing to add/change in the contract, how to arrange the space, etc). I know that he just wants me to be happy and successful and I love him for that. But I don't always have the same ideas as my husband and to be honest, many days I just don't even want to talk about daycare at the end of the day. I'm just struggling to find that balance between letting him know that I need his support and recognize the changes the daycare have had on all of us. But at the same time reminding him that it's my job and for the most part I need to do this on my own. And yes I'm going to make mistakes and there's probably things that I could do better, but those are things I need to learn for myself.
I would suggest saying pretty much exactly what you wrote in your original post. It makes it clear what your issues are with his actions while highlighting how much you care about him and appreciate his support. I would think he probably has no idea that his actions are having this effect on you. I wouldn't tip toe around the issue or pacify him to try and let him down gently, he isn't a child. His feelings aren't likely to be hurt if you explain it to him like you did here which I personally think was very clear on what you want but that you value his encouragement also. Then have a conversation about boundaries as they can be vague when doing this type of business from home so you both know where you stand with each other.

I think every man is different, and a lot depends on your relationship, but I'm someone who calls it as it is, doesn't mean I am abrupt, callous or don't take his feelings into consideration, but I'm not one to BS and be passive either. My husband is respectful of my honesty just like I am of his. Nowhere is it written that we have to agree or conform and we are clear on those expectations.