Ridiculous accusation from parent!

[5 Little Monkeys]

So your comment was inappropriate but dads wasn't?! Oi, some people! Lol

I think you are probably right. Young kids do much better with consistency and routine. Once they're a bit older, a few days at home doesn't seem to affect them but when they're young, I agree with you that it seems to affect them. What I do when they make a fuss at drop off is take a pic of them as soon as they stop and send it to the parent...this is usually before they've even backed outta the driveway lol. It shows the parent that the crying really is just a show put on and that the child isn't upset about coming here lol

I'd respond back with, "sorry you found my comment inappropriate but I meant no harm. Its just been my experience that children thrive on routine and when it's altered, it sometimes affects them. I understand crying at drop off must be stressful for you but I assure you that your child is fine minutes after settling in and enjoys his time here. I give all children my best care. If you have any concerns, we can talk in person"

By sending a text over something serious like this, they are getting to be passive aggressive and likely saying things they wouldn't in person to your face. IME, parents sometimes feel guilty about needing daycare and when the child cries they want to pass the "blame" onto the provider so that they don't feel like the crappy parent. In reality, crying at drop off is VERY normal! It's great that they want to keep him home when they're on days off and spend time with him but maybe right now, this child would benefit more from ft dc?

[planet.caravan67]

So your comment was inappropriate but dads wasn't?! Oi, some people! Lol

I think you are probably right. Young kids do much better with consistency and routine. Once they're a bit older, a few days at home doesn't seem to affect them but when they're young, I agree with you that it seems to affect them. What I do when they make a fuss at drop off is take a pic of them as soon as they stop and send it to the parent...this is usually before they've even backed outta the driveway lol. It shows the parent that the crying really is just a show put on and that the child isn't upset about coming here lol

I'd respond back with, "sorry you found my comment inappropriate but I meant no harm. Its just been my experience that children thrive on routine and when it's altered, it sometimes affects them. I understand crying at drop off must be stressful for you but I assure you that your child is fine minutes after settling in and enjoys his time here. I give all children my best care. If you have any concerns, we can talk in person"

By sending a text over something serious like this, they are getting to be passive aggressive and likely saying things they wouldn't in person to your face. IME, parents sometimes feel guilty about needing daycare and when the child cries they want to pass the "blame" onto the provider so that they don't feel like the crappy parent. In reality, crying at drop off is VERY normal! It's great that they want to keep him home when they're on days off and spend time with him but maybe right now, this child would benefit more from ft dc?

Good suggestion with the picture, I will try to do that, too bad my phone takes awful pictures, maybe just a quick text or even a call so they can hear no child crying in the background to let them know everything is ok.

Mom came and picked up child early without notifying me. I spoke to her and explained the situation, she was understanding and agreed with me, she was concerned that her son wasn't adjusting to new children coming I guaranteed her her son has no issue with the children. It is too much of a coincidence that he becomes miserable coming after staying home lots.

[Van]

and talk to them in person about this, rather than texting them

[planet.caravan67]

Before mom had come I had texted dad, basically telling him when a child who is mostly used to being in daycare has their routine switched and then starts to stay home they sometimes do not adjust well and become fussy and cling to parents and its normal behaviour, my comment wasn't meant offend him. The crying lasts only a few mins and then he gets distracted playing and stops. His child is happy here, well adjusted and nothing has changed in terms of how I care for the children, hence why I mentioned I suspected it was due to staying at home more often, because that has been the only recent change that I know of.

All I got back now was a "Thanks."

[Van]

[QUOTE=planet.caravan 67

All I got back now was a "Thanks."[/QUOTE

He may have realised that he over-reacted and wanted to keep his reply SHORT