At a bit of a loss-looking for advice

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Oh BS I feel your PAIN - I work with infants and toddlers and like you, I don't have the tv on for daycare - so when I have a crying child I sit down and have him close to me, not sitting on my lap but standing between my legs and we just look at his friends playing, I don't talk to him but talk to his friends as they play over his cries...... then I have noticed he slowly steps away from me then he may come back to stand beside me again as he cries again and slowly he goes off to play with a toy and it got better everyday with less crying time -

- and it sounds like the Dad is hoping everything will fall into place when the baby arrives and he will be at work and Mom will be at home trying to deal with this and the new baby so maybe just remind her about that as a last suggestion before the baby arrives

She got dad told today lol and he is on board now since hearing how today went. I just hope someone gets back to them promptly with an appointment. If there has been nothing done in the next two weeks then they are getting notice. She said the dept she contacted said that they would get a call back within 48 hours. I did also talk to mum about the system and that it is difficult to access resources quickly sometimes and that maybe check if hubby has EAP which might cover some appointments with a play therapist which could possibly occur within the next few weeks. They would probably be a good resource for assessing her overall emotional health and giving some play based ideas on how to help her through this difficult time.

I will not be making recommendations to this family any further. I am exhausted and seeing them not do anything that constitutes as an "action" simply talk talk talk, I have to draw the line somewhere and as Lou-Bee said, I need to enjoy my job and it's been a while...

[Van]

Yes some parents just like to talk and not make the phone call and it can't come from yo
yes you did not open the daycare again to feel exhausted and you do have to draw the line so you can enjoy your job again

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Update....

Mum is playing phone tag and each time she calls back it's the general enquiries line and she has to go through the whole process again. It's been three times now. Mum is off today and dcg is here. If she brings a special teddy she is calmer so that's progress. She won't eat...it's beyond ridiculous now. If she just didn't eat it wouldn't be so bad, but she will hold all the food in her mouth. The last two weeks at home have escalated too so now they are experiencing things first hand.

Today mum is calling a registered child and play therapist. They have coverage which is fantastic and while this kid doesn't show signs of an LD in my opinion, she has some emotional needs which I think will be best addressed by a specialist, not just someone who says she is two, she'll work through the it and send them on their way. Mum also knows that I need to see some improvements pronto otherwise she can't stay here.

14mth dcb is stood next to her playing and she is clutching her teddy and becoming increasingly agitated and upset. He is not even looking at her, just in her vicinity. I'd rather be broke than unhappy...lets see what advice and resources this therapist can offer.