How to deal with difficult napper

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Current child screaming house down for 20 minutes isn't actually that bad lol I feel your pain though honestly. I would under these circumstances to help this child to adjust asap is separate her. Put her in a totally different area of the house until she is less disruptive. Make sure you put her to nap awake every time, and do not sooth her. The fact that she only screams for 20 minutes proves that this is an attention thing and she can clearly get herself off to sleep after that. I know that you have the other child who can sleep through anything, but you have a new one coming in who by the sounds of it won't deal well with this child. If she screams, ignore her. If she is in pain, ill or unsafe, you will know the difference in her scream. Do not respond a single time otherwise you are reinforcing the behavior and she will continue. Once she has stopped with this nonsense, reintroduce her to napping with the other kids.

New child coming in I caution you now...It is interpretive that this parent changes how her child goes to sleep now prior to going to daycare. It is too much to expect for you to rock the child to sleep, its a disservice to the child and is just easier for the parent than crying it out. You will have to work harder to sleep train and potentially ten times longer if the parents continue to sooth them this way. In order to sleep train, child must be put down to sleep awake every time, it can not be a silent house, not a realistic environment, and you must let the child cry it out. This is at home and at daycare. Even if this parent doesn't get on board, you need to set the expectation from day one so this kid knows without question what the expectations are.

If my daycare kids happen to be woken up by a doorbell or phone ringing and they cry out, I do not respond. I give them plenty of time to try to self sooth and typically then they don't get upset in the future by the noise. Once someone goes in and lays down with them or rocks them, strokes them on the back or shushes them, they become reliant on this. It's not about being a hard ass or cruel, it is about allowing them to develop the independence skills that they all require. Having the ability to self sooth in one area, aids in their ability to do it elsewhere too.

Good Luck