Bad behavior in kids

[Judy Trickett]

Thank you Judy, and I didn't mean to uspset you, I just wanted to clarify, but anyway thank you for the help, I will be trying these things and I hope things change! And again sorry if I upset you

I know this is really hard to understand at some levels and even harder to explain. But....it's all in the tone you set for the environment you build and the expectations of the kids in that environment.

I honestly do NOT have behaviour problems (at least not very often) because right from the get go a child learns here that certain behaviours will NOT be tolerated. And, I also set the tone that I am the peace-maker. I extinguish any battles. I take care of their needs. I am the go-to person when they have a problem. And when you set that tone of YOU being the absolute one to trust to meet their needs they do not hit their friend. And the reason they do not hit their friend is because they are not frustrated or fearful in the first place because one, their friend behaves nicely toward them (as is the standard here) and two, if their friend does NOT treat them nicely then I take care of that. Every kid knows they do NOT have to rise to a level of frustration to hit someone because I will take care of the point of their frustration in the first place.

I know it sounds strange. But it works.

Have you ever gone into a new environment and "felt" the tone of the room and knew exactly what the expectations were and who was in charge? Well, that is how your daycare should be run. You can still be a nice person. But ultimately every child in your care has to know that You and only YOU are in charge and YOU meet ALL needs while they are in your care.

Once you get a good group of kids who have been in care a while then the tone is set and they all know that so one new kid coming in to care picks up on that very quickly.