My day so far...

[Skysue]

For me I have used Judy's method and it's just not for me as I can't stand to hear a baby cry all the time & I have found that it takes a bit longer for the child to transition.

I don't agree with carrying a child all day either as I love my back or don't feel it's the best way to transition as they can become too clingy.

I myself believe in a happy medium, the reason why they are crying is due to not feeling trust with you and it makes since. They do need a % of your time and being held in order to feel safe and secure. So for me I hold them a few times throughout the day for a few minutes then let them down to be with everyone else. Yes they’re going to cry but it should only last a few days and if there part time it’s a bit longer transition.

It does suck those first days as everyone is effected by the cries and it puts us on edge as no one wants to hear a baby cry. Just remember how rewarding it feels when they gain your trust & love!

Hang in there and know your not alone!

Hugs

[Daycare123]

I would not recommend baby-wearing daycare children. First of all-I agree with Judy how long are you willing to do that? And secondly-you want to set a standard of care in your daycare that you can realistically continue. I used to carry (in a carrier) one of the daycare kids before nap when she was transitioning in-thought she was doing great until I realized that the only reason she was napping was because she was IN THE CARRIER! Now my policy is that children must be able to transition into the care they will receive which means that they must learn to nap in their daycare bed.

As far as the crying, how long has it been now? How long has this child been at your daycare? I had a child that used to SCREAM through the whole day-after two weeks she started to really enjoy daycare and loves it now!

[Sandbox Sally]

I would wear her as well, until she became more adjusted. Poor mite. I wore my own kids. I wear my dck's sometimes. I could never let a child sit and cry on her own in an unfamiliar environment like that, nor could I let a kid cry it out for an hour in a house that she is not accustomed to...I do not feel that providing security to a stressed out child will spoil her, or teach her to manipulate you - it teaches her that she can rely on you, thereby shortening her adjustment period. Again, this is just my own observation and experience. And, yeah...I am an AP'er.

[Cocoon]

This week her second week officially. I know it will be hard for them and for me too belive me I know it will take sometime for her to feel OK. and get used to me. I'm already attached to her, she is very! sweet when she is not crying

Anyway, here is the update. She slept an hour in the morning with no cry and almost 2 hours in the afternoon again no cry! Yesterday was one of my happiest days and today seems to be going really good so far. She is now asleep and I'm thinking of having my breakfast but I'm scared to wake her up as even slightest bit of noise would wake her up. Thinking of waiting but I'm starving Thank you all for your supportive responses. I really appreciated.

Cocoon

[sunnydays]

Glad things are getting better. It takes a couple of weeks for them to adjust. As for the noise, have you tried putting a fan next to her playpen in the room she is sleeping in? That helps to block out the noise. You don't want her to get used to dead silence either because you mentioned that soon you will have another one as well.
I agree with Alphaghetti...it may be harder for the caregiver to give a little more attention during those first weeks, but later on she will be very secure and trust you more. Jus tmy opinion and I know a lot of people disagree. That is why there are all different types of caregivers for different types of families. We all have our own styles

[Spixie33]

7:30am parent drops the baby. She cries and then stops for a while while eating her snacks. Snack is over and she starts crying again. Continuously! She wants me to carry her all the time. If I leave her on the floor she cries as if something hurting her but is happy as soon as I pick her up. She doesn't want to sleep. She suppose to sleep between an hour and a half in the morning and up to 2 hours in the afternoon which she never slept that long when she is with me. This morning she slept only 15 mins. but of course cried for 30mins. before she falls asleep.

She had her lunch with no problem, all smiley and everything is normal. Lunch is over and she started crying again. As long as she is sitting on my lap or me carrying her around the house she is happy and jolly. She is so tired that she falls asleep on the floor or in my arms but as soon as i put her in her cot she screams and won't sleep.

She cried for an hour before she literally exhaust herself and fall asleep. And I'm knackered! I seriously am thinking to give notice to the family as I don't think I can do this for a long time and it won't be fair on other dck. Right now, I only look after her but there will be another child joining us soon. And I don't want to upset the other child and our neighbours!

So above is my day so far. I hope yours is better then mine.

(Tired) Cocoon

I think I read your post a few weeks ago and it is contagious. LOL I seem to have the same sort of scenario with a new infant that just started this week. reading about it and going through it are very different. I am glad to hear that you and the child found your groove. I hope I do too with my newbie. I am having a really hard time consoling her unless I carry her and I really don't want to be lugging a 1 year old around all day. It is so challenging to get the other children in their snowsuits or get lunch and snacks ready when the other child won't let me out of their grasp.

[playfelt]

If you don't want to put a fan on because of the air flow you can also tune the radio to between stations and just have a low static in the background. Blocks out most of the other noises and has the benefit of being somewhat musical without having a real melody or words so not stimulating like a CD might be.

[Cocoon]

It has been 4 weeks since she started. And things are lot better! She is not crying as much and she understands when I say "no". Moans abit and stops.

Spixie33, you should read my other post about my new dck. I now am working on him and believe me this girl is easy compare to the new child. I don't want to think that it may take a month! for him to settle One thing keeping me going is he is very sweet and his parents' are lovely

I hope things will get better for you soon!

[Cocoon]

playfelt, they are used to listening to their CD in their room and it is part of their routine. So I can't really change that yet

[SummerLuvin]

I'm going thru this right now....dcg cries...er...sorry.. .SCREAMS all the time! EXCEPT.......when she's sleeping, or eating....yay what fun! Poor girl. Been going on for 1h 45 min now. This is totally excpected though, mom said she cried with everyone and anyone she was left with in her first year. I've tried holding her, reassuring her, ignoring her, putting her down thinking she was still tired....heck I've even tried Cheerios! But she just cries between each O....oy vey! Serenity now!