I see what you're getting at and I think it is very sweet that you are trying to help out a struggling mom, but in my opinion, you won't be able to do much for her from your end because kids behave differently with different people. They behave how we train them to behave, so even if you get him napping perfectly, behaving like an angel all day long, he will revert to his other ways the second he sees his mom. I see it every day with my dck's! Plus, my own kids are always better for someone else than they are for me (although they are pretty good for me most of the time).