I have only been doing this for just under a year, but so far, I only really see the benefits to my own children. Not only that they get to be home with me, but that they get to learn how to share, cooperate, get along with a group of children. I think this is something that has been kind of lost in our society as everyone focuses on the individual and kids learn young that is all about "me me me" and "mine mine mine". I have three kids (16 years, 3 1/2 and 1 1/2) and they are all okay with the daycare because they do not have a choice. I cannot even imagine feeling guitly about doing something that benefits them all financially, emotionally, etc. Even my 16 year old does not complain about smoe of the sacrifices he makes for the daycare (ex. kids napping in his room). He understands that families must work together to get ahead and this means sacrifices on everyone's part as well as benefits for everyone. I think it is all in how you approach it. If you feel guilty and bad about it, then your kids will pick up on this and feel that it is not a good thing. So far, none of my kids has said anything negative about the daycare or the dck's and if it does happen, I will explain to them just what I just explained in this post. Kids complain about all kinds of things...anything they don't like at the moment...that's why parents make the decisions for the family, not the kids. I don't see sacrifice and comprimise as negatively affecting children...I see it just the opposite, even if they complain.