Rather than look at the negatives of what your kids have to tolerate think about what it would be like for them if you didn't do daycare and instead went out to work. How often do you let them sleep in a bit longer in the morning compared to the dc who are up, fed , and driven to your house? In someone else's home they would only have the playroom to be in, no bedroom to be alone in, they wouldn't have access to their own toys all day just those of the caregiver. They would have to go to school unless really really sick cause you can only take so many days off before getting fired. You are not there when they run in from school with special news, or forget something and need it taken to them..... the list of benefits far outweighs the negatives.

Just as we expect the daycare children to adapt to the new reality of daycare our own children will too. The less we try to make it up to them the less they will feel there is anything to be made up. Our guilt can be the cause of issues sometimes.

Two of my four kids were born into the daycare and the others were 18 months and 4 months when I started so for the most part have known nothing else. As they got older were there a few issues yes. Mostly it had to do with them forgetting what it would be like if the daycare kids weren't there and instead I went out to work. And if I didn't go out to work what they wouldn't have - the extra clothes, pizza for supper, whatever. Once they put it all into perspective they usually settled down.