Christmas crafts and parents......:(

[Lee-Bee]

I know at times it can be frustrating. But, as a professional probably I could have gave her the option to choose: 1 the craft is not age appropriate (and your role as educator is to make sure every child is able to participate and support the craft activity with any little skills they have); 2 how ever it can get done but not as the picture in the box. Using al the pieces as a loose parts and regular glue for everyone and when everyone is able to participate. 3 for the grand parents to see, you can send a digital picture of the grand child hands on. Or last, the mother and the child can do it together. (As you stated before) but not just you doing it alone and on your own afternoon prep. time. I'm sure the grand parents will love to see their grand child working on it. Not just and the end product.

I truthfully am not sure that giving the parents options is the right way to go. They have stepped outside the boundary of acceptable expectations. They have sent a 300 pc hot glue gun project to the caregiver to be done during nap to then be sent to grandparents as a gift. They did not mistakenly overestimate the children's abilities and send a group activity for the daycare they intentionally sent an activity for the caregiver to do by herself for a present for someone else.

It is not acceptable in any career for someone to be given a project that is not related to the career to be done on work time. It is certainly not acceptable for a home daycare parent to be giving a self employed home daycare provider this project to be done during her working day.

Options just give the parent the idea that they just chose the wrong activity and next time they want Christmas presents made they need to send one that is just a bit easier. The box needed to be returned unopened with a clear discussion about how it was not acceptable to send it so this doesn't happen again.

[33 Daiseys]

Hi all, thanks for the thoughts. This parent will be getting a term letter in the new year. This is the third time some thing has come up. and both myself and my husband are fed up with her.
2 - Last week we did a bunch of baking for a local nursing home, I'm talking 4 days of cookies and squares I had bought tins so that each child including my own would get one of each to take home ( I bought the big metal tins so there was more then enough sent home). The rest I had packaged up so that we could take it in for the seniors. This was the Tuesday night.
Mom shows up to pick up on Wednesday with a second EMPTY tin, " So I have a christmas party on Friday at work, can put some cookies in her for me?"
My response was, "Sorry they were dropped off this am ( there was a permission for set out saying we were visiting , and bringing the baked goods), but if you want the recipies dck can help you, they were a great help".
Her response, "Well I don't have time for that!", and stormed out dragging dck behind her.
1 - The first time was when she got made that i didn't take the kids trick or treating on Halloween day at the mall like i did last year. This year the local mall did there trick or treating on the Saturday. She had know that we wouldn't be going, {since it wasn't happening }, and that we would have a party and craft day here.
Any how she wanted me to keep her child here to take out since "she hates being outside".
I told her sorry but we had just gotten over a cold (which we had) and that my husband was going to take my kids out since I had to catch up on cooking and cleaning. Her reply was that if it took so long to clean and cook that I should hire help( that's where my comment came from).
Needless to say she stomped off saying to dck" Well I guess you don't get to go trick or treating this year"
It really is a shame the dad is great, but I never see him, and I love the grandparents( If i had know that the craft was for grandparents, and had been given ample notice, I would have just because they are always so kind. They showed up with a cake on my birthday, and last Christmas brought all of the kids presents and timbits)

[33 Daiseys]

I truthfully am not sure that giving the parents options is the right way to go. They have stepped outside the boundary of acceptable expectations. They have sent a 300 pc hot glue gun project to the caregiver to be done during nap to then be sent to grandparents as a gift. They did not mistakenly overestimate the children's abilities and send a group activity for the daycare they intentionally sent an activity for the caregiver to do by herself for a present for someone else.

It is not acceptable in any career for someone to be given a project that is not related to the career to be done on work time. It is certainly not acceptable for a home daycare parent to be giving a self employed home daycare provider this project to be done during her working day.

Options just give the parent the idea that they just chose the wrong activity and next time they want Christmas presents made they need to send one that is just a bit easier. The box needed to be returned unopened with a clear discussion about how it was not acceptable to send it so this doesn't happen again.

Thanks I just couldn't believe it.