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    How long have you had the child in care? Has he always been picky?

    If he is gaining weight he is getting enough nutrients. If he isn't getting them from you then someone is feeding him something that he likes.

    FEW child will actually starve themselves and few would push their being picky enough to the point of passing out due to low blood sugars. If he is seeing a nutritionist then they would have noted if he was one of these few pretty quickly in their assessments.

    I know it sounds really mean...but if he wants to not eat to the point of passing out...then perhaps he needs to pass out? So you can call an ambulance and get the parents and medical professionals attention.

    I suspect he is a strong willed child who is getting food on the side (cheerios from you and likely some filling foods at home). Progress isn't made by sneaking food to a child. It is VERY hard as an adult to see a child go hungry because we as adults know how uncomfortable it is to be hungry but that child needs to feel it himself, to the point of caring to not choose to feel those hunger pains.

    I am saddened at how we now have protein drinks for kids and formula marketed just for picky kids. It is a sign we as a whole are not having proper expectations for children's eating habits. We've catered to them to the point in not expecting them to eat real food. It's not good!

    Best of luck with the little guy...hopefully home fully jumps on board, it would only take a few days (at most) of a VERY hungry child for the child to broaden his "liked" foods.

    Everytime my almost 5yr old goes through a slightly "picky" phase I go into a no easy safe foods, only 'weird' foods cooking streak. She doesn't continue to rely on the familiar common foods and just naturally forgets to be picky as she isn't getting bits of 'safe' foods to hold her along. Meaning no breads, crackers, pasta etc. It seems to work BUT we've has this mentality from day one so it is MUCH easier to get back on track when needed than starting from scratch years into picky eating habits!

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    Tough love - I love it! but no, I prob don't want to push this to the point of calling 911! Yes, I've had him in my care since he was 12 months, and he has always been a very picky eater (more so at home i'm told by parents) but I was always able to get him to eat a bit of egg, or pasta, but he won't even taste test anything anymore. He chooses to eat the crackers/cookie/crunchy only items in the variety of foods offered over the course of 2 snacks and a lunch. It has gotten worse over the last few months (pasta not right colour/shape).... eats absolutely no meat (which would be fine, but doesn't eat alternative for protein) except pizza pepperoni. He's basically a very easy child in every other respect, but he is grossed out very easily.... string on the banana so can't finish it; microscopic bruise on apple so can't finish and nearly gagging so doesn't want new blemish-free piece. Although, I don't get it because pizza is kind of a messy looking meal with cheesy strings everywhere and that doesn't bother him.... If we do a messy art activity he can't stand getting his hands dirty with that either. The one healthy thing he does like is a cold smoothie (packed with spinach/fruit/nut butter) and I think that's been keeping him healthy, but I don't make those every day. I think part of it too is a consequence of his parent's busy working and home life schedule.... rushing to get food on the table after work...
    Well, I think as long as he stays hydrated that's all I will worry about and just let his parents know on the daily record! Thanks
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    Quote Originally Posted by ebhappydc View Post
    Tough love - I love it! but no, I prob don't want to push this to the point of calling 911! Yes, I've had him in my care since he was 12 months, and he has always been a very picky eater (more so at home i'm told by parents) but I was always able to get him to eat a bit of egg, or pasta, but he won't even taste test anything anymore. He chooses to eat the crackers/cookie/crunchy only items in the variety of foods offered over the course of 2 snacks and a lunch. It has gotten worse over the last few months (pasta not right colour/shape).... eats absolutely no meat (which would be fine, but doesn't eat alternative for protein) except pizza pepperoni. He's basically a very easy child in every other respect, but he is grossed out very easily.... string on the banana so can't finish it; microscopic bruise on apple so can't finish and nearly gagging so doesn't want new blemish-free piece. Although, I don't get it because pizza is kind of a messy looking meal with cheesy strings everywhere and that doesn't bother him.... If we do a messy art activity he can't stand getting his hands dirty with that either. The one healthy thing he does like is a cold smoothie (packed with spinach/fruit/nut butter) and I think that's been keeping him healthy, but I don't make those every day. I think part of it too is a consequence of his parent's busy working and home life schedule.... rushing to get food on the table after work...
    Well, I think as long as he stays hydrated that's all I will worry about and just let his parents know on the daily record! Thanks
    Just to clarify it wasn't a cruel 'tough love'. Lol, obviously no one wants for a child to pass out. Especially on a daycare providers watch. But I can't help but think if this child is so picky that they opt to not eat enough nutrition to make it through the day in an upright position then more attention needs to be drawn to the fact that something is off. I would wager that it is just that he hasn't been in the position long enough to NEED to eat foods he doesn't like...but perhaps there is a bigger issue that might not be identified if he is given just enough of what he wants to stay standing.

    If it truly is a texture issue then there should be supports in place to help him over come that and to figure out what those issues are in place. The fact he seems so happy and healthy on all other fronts makes me think it is just a behavioral thing and not an autism spectrum or such as a root cause!

    I wish you luck in making gains with him!! :-)

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    Now that you describe the extent of his issues with foods and with getting hands dirty etc, those are signs of sensory processing disorder, as I mentioned earlier. I’m guessing he’s off to school in the fall? Those areas need to be addressed before kindergarten. Has the nutritionist or a doctor never suggested a sensory screening be done by an occupational therapist?
    If that’s what it is, it has a neurological component where the brain is either over or under reacting to the signals from the senses. It’s the real deal, and can be very debilitating.

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    Apparently he is seeing a therapist about his issues with food - he says they play games while he eats. As if matters couldn't get worse, this week he has stopped wiping himself in washroom as doesn't want to risk getting his hands dirty, so he has been just pulling up clothes after bm.... His parents are dealing with same and advised me to be firm with him about it. He's off to JK in Sept and I will continue to work with him best I can so he's ready for school. Tx!

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    And you are just finding out about him seeing a food therapist now? No communication from the parents before hand? No information to ensure consistent approach?

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    Mom mentioned a few weeks ago they were trying to make appointment for food therapist to broaden his choices in food. At that time, from my perspective, he was managing to eat a bit here at daycare that i wasn't too concerned. But he seems to be getting worse to point where he will be super hungry most of the day, and that tends to make me uncomfortable. I feel like if there's zero or only one items eaten shown on the daily record sheet going home, it's somehow on me. But the parents never told me he started the therapy and seem reluctant to talk about it. Child told me by telling about the games he plays with therapist. I don't know how often, or if he's even still going.

    So no, parents don't communicate much about his issues to me so i'm blind as to how to approach. They tell me I'm great with him and keep doing what i'm doing.... Over the past 6 months he has been to hearing specialists and speech therapists, and now food, plus he has two close in age siblings going to various appointments, and i think parents are quite overwhelmed.
    I"ll see how things go over next few weeks... he is a very well behaved child, so at least no problems there. And he is somehow healthy (hardly ever a sick day).
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