I don't usually respond to posts but I had to when I read this! I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. If I was in your situation I would do exactly what the other ladies said. Terminate this mother immediately as she has no right to say that! That is the most disrespectful thing I have ever heard! I'm sure once you terminate her, you will be able to take the time you need and the existing families you have will understand. God bless!