Bereavement time

[kindredspirit]

So sorry to hear you're going through this! In my contract, I list bereavement under personal days (same as family illness), and I give as much notice as I can and can take whatever I need, unpaid. My father in law passed away unexpectedly in January (previously healthy, 60s, septic knee). We piled the family in the car and drove 15h overnight to get get to my MIL. I called/texted families from the car explaining the situation. I had to close all week because of the funeral being 5 days later. Thankfully I didn't get any response from parents aside from condolences and reassurance to take time with my family. My husband is only entitled to 3 days bereavement leave, but with the circumstances and travel (plus he never asks for anything) they gave him 8 days off!

I think you should take whatever time you need, and let them figure it out. And you should call out that parent on being hurtful if they make anymore rude comments. I'd say term-but you probably don't want the stress of interviews and transitioning new children.