Bereavement time

[bright sparks]

Also being sensitive to others, maybe your clients do not have jobs that allow them to have extra sick days. Not all work for the government with greater benefits. Some are like us self employed and need to make their ends meet. They might need to pay someone else to care for their child so they do not loose on working days. I would just probably let them be at least they will be there when you come back.

Regardless of the parents situation and circumstances, her bad attitude, blatant rudeness and disrespect are completely unacceptable. She could have absolutely got her point across to the OP of difficulties in finding alternative care in a much nicer way, although how inappropriate and selfish to make this all about her. Suck it up, figure it out. These are exceptional circumstances and the OP is actually doing her a favour by forwarning her of what's to come which most people don't have the ability to know. Also after the fact that this parent said what she did and in the manner she did, nobody would have my sensitivity towards their situation. If I was in the OP's situation, I wouldn't give a toss about anyone else, I'd simply be consumed by the fact that one of my closest family members was going to pass away.

I don't have anything in my contract, I'd take it unpaid because I have a contract that states if I close for any reason then the parents don't pay. It is irrelevant what an agencies policies are unless you are signed up with an agency. My entire family is in the UK so I'd likely have to close my business down as I'm the one to have to sort out everything and that would take significant time and then afterwards is when I'd likely crumble and need additional time just to be...

[Peacefulbird]

[QUOTE=bright sparks;85968]Regardless of the parents situation and circumstances, her bad attitude, blatant rudeness and disrespect are completely unacceptable. She could have absolutely got her point across to the OP of difficulties in finding alternative care in a much nicer way, although how inappropriate and selfish to make this all about her. Suck it up, figure it out. These are exceptional circumstances and the OP is actually doing her a favour by forwarning her of what's to come which most people don't have the ability to know. Also after the fact that this parent said what she did and in the manner she did, nobody would have my sensitivity towards their situation.

I don't have anything in my contract, I'd take it unpaid because I have a contract that states if I close for any reason then the parents don't pay. It is irrelevant what an agencies policies are unless you are signed up with an agency"

You are absolutely right, clients like this one should not have our empathy. I used to think absolutely like that. Until I become aware of certain kind of psychological conditions. And I do not know the scientific names for those, there are people that are emotions less, their brains can not read others emotions therefore can not feel or act with empathy, some also suffer from the condition of saying things without thinking or not thinking of how this will affect the other person, it is all rooted in their brain. Or also makes you think how this person was raised as a child sadly to say, maybe was emotion less, sometimes it can also be rooted in their childhood.

Us as caregivers, we have to deal with all this kind of issues. We never know. But working in this field makes us more resilient.

I'm sorry if I posted an agency policy and my husband's work, I thought you were looking for a comparison or guidance on what others do in this kind of situation. It was mentioned that in a centre is three days.

[JKR]

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I recently went through something similar as my sister was dying, very quickly, of cancer. I do not have anything in my contract for bereavement, but I will now.

As for that parent, I agree with the other posters, kick her/him to the curb. They clearly have zero empathy. You don't need to deal with someone like that during this difficult time.

I was very lucky that all of my families were very understanding. I took five or six days to care for her and for the funeral. I managed to get a fellow ece to supply for two days, I did not charge for the days that I was closed. However, I know that's not an option for everyone. I wish you all the best.