You're right, it is hard to make friends when adults. But, I've learned through experience and a lot reading, that basically you have made your own life, choices and friends as your personality is. Now, it is time to focus on your child and nurture her. Role model, share your ideas, and eventually she will find her own friends; and you just nurture those.

I have also learned that I had to respect my daughters choices, and it was hard. But, if you have real good friends they will respect your choices. For example: a very close friend of mine has a son almost same age as my daughter, he was agresive and my friend wouldn't guide him properly (because she tried to have children for ten years); so, I decided to not end my friendship because of this issue, I decided to avoid bringing my daughter to her house or we will go for a cup of tee etc. When she asked I had to tell her that my daughter doesn't enjoy being in her house and I do, so as parent I had to respect that. She did not get offended. But also over years I found out that her son is not doing well he has behavioral issues and has been changed from school to school. I felt so glad that I did not push my daughter to become friends with the boy.

I had to sit and realize: one allowing her to make friends with this boy will be me, as a mother nurturing on her that it is ok to be mistreated, hit, and disrespected. To teach my daughter that we can be apart and avoid situations from it would be the most councious lesson we can learn and it will grow into her. So, I acted upon it. I still have my friend and we support each other as we can and my daughter respects my friends as I do hers (I absolutely like her circle of friends).

I also know that our adult dreams are that our children become close friends with our friend's children and grow strongly rooted friendships but, we have to realize we are raisin children for the "world" and some day they will have to make choices on their own without us.