Thanks ladies. It is so nice to hear that others have been here and have come out the other end with promising results. We recognize we won't be able to control her choice in friends in the years to come but we do hope that we can have an impact by setting the tone now and by having frank discussions.

Raising kids is hard. Our daughter is not always happy with us but we recognize that no person is every happy 100% of the time and letting her run the show to be happy all the time is not preparation for life. She knows she is loved and she is a happy child. It is so hard to follow up on playdates with our friends and having to explain to our 3 yr olds that some people allow their kids to scream in their faces, to get what they want by throwing fits and by speaking rudely but that it isn't acceptable behaviors and we will not allow it. It is awkward knowing that next time she sees our friends she might be a 3yr old and tell them "mommy says it is not acceptable to let your kid scream in your face" but we can't not get that message through in hopes of avoiding awkward situations.