Desperately need nap help!!

[Lee-Bee]

Sounds like he is waking after one sleep cycle and is unable to get himself back to sleep. I have found this VERY common in children who are rocked to sleep and who bedshare. If they don't put themselves to sleep all on their own at the start of sleep they are unable to put themselves back to sleep when they wake after a sleep cycle.

I don't know that I have anything more to share than what you have tried. Have you tried not going at all when he does wake. Maybe your good intentions are just fueling his fighting going back down as he sees you and is accustomed to having outside help when an adult is in sight. It will be hard for all but maybe try a couple weeks of not being near and not going to his aid when he wakes. He might just decide it isn't worth being awake and go back to sleep.

[hockey mom]

I had the exact same issue. The parents had warned me the 1 year old didn't nap but I scoffed because I always had been able to get the kids to sleep well. The child was used to being breastfed to sleep and I don't think the parents made an effort to establish a proper nap schedule.

. When I was able to get her to sleep, she would wake up after 30 minutes screaming bloody murder. I tried everything over the course of a few months. Eventually I just let her cry it out, though she never went back to sleep and I found it very stressful to hear her. Finally, after a year, I could get her to sleep without issues and have her sleep a solid hour and a half. I found that if I had some cuddle time with her then put her down and caressed her forehead for a few minutes lightly, it was enough to get her dopey and then I would leave. I also had a 2-way monitor in her room so I could shush her and give her occasional reassurance without going in to get her.

It was a year of pure hell getting to this point though.