In my contract I let parents know that they may come and visit their child, but they may want to let me know when they are coming as we go out for walks, to parks, to the beach---- and they may find that we are out when they come. I also state that even though they may come at any time, that it is hard on their child and the others, as they have already said goodbye in the morning and now they are saying goodbye again. Very confusing for their child and the others. I lock my door because my licensing officer has let me know that it is safer for the children, I also have a child that is a runner and may try to escape when my back is turned.

As for parents that like to stay, my daycare is on the ground floor and when I see the child's car pull into the driveway I put the child's coat and shoes on, put up the baby gate and escort him to the door. I do not invite the parent in unless it is very cold. I take a few minutes to talk about the child's day and say goodbye.

My hobby, one that keeps me sane, is my horse. The parents are very kind and know that I have a riding lesson on Tuesday nights and they all come on time or early that day. Sometimes if the parents are slow at getting the child into their car, I am pulling out of the driveway while they are still attempting to buckle up the car seat.

I have learned through my 15 years of childcare experience that I have to do something for myself to battle the stress that a day can bring and to be with other adults.
I do this through my hobby. I have dinner ready for my 2 boys and my husband and I go to the barn for a few hours. My husband has commented how relaxed I am now. Do something for yourself, it pays dividends in the long run.