Conduct during Red Flag Intrrview

[Lee-Bee]

I had a mom and nearly 1 yr old come. I usually always have both parents but allowed just mom to come for first visit.

They were great, mom was great, child was great. Then her phone rang. She answered while i sat beside playing with her child.

It was dad, he was LIVID that she had left the house. He was screaming, I could feel the rage. I just pretended I didn't hear anything, let her wrap it up and let her know I had a few other families coming and would be in touch.

I had to let her know I took on a different family. I could NOT allow that man in my home, near my child and other daycare children. This was 3 years ago and I swear I can still feel the rage in his voice. I think back now and realize I likely should have asked if she needed help, versus allowing her to save face by pretending I didn't hear anything.

This is why I would never sign on a family without meeting both parents in person, so I at least have a chance to try and gauge their character in person.

As for your question, odds are I would do as you did but I know I SHOULD just send them out the door instantly when they are acting like that. But it is awkward when first meeting as we are clearly judging. But, we need to. We spend so much time with these children and families.