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I have a policy where I do not accept kids who have been kicked out of other daycares, because I always get burned, thinking they won't be bad at my place.
My most recent addition is a 3 year old whose old dayhome lady moved, and shut down her dayhome. It is obvious that the former dayhome had very relaxed, or absent rules, in addition to the fact that this kid likes to push boundaries and has absolutely no respect for me. Some days she flat out ignores me like I'm not there. She's 3!!!
I've had her for 3 months, and in the beginning I would tell the parents that she was kicking my windows, doors, jumping on the couch, throwing food on the floor, ignoring me...The only response I ever get is that she "NEVER" does anything like that at home. Oh really? Never. Right. They turn the situation around to make it sound like there must be something wrong with me and my environment, even though I've never seen a child behave this way. Not even the ones who have gone through their "terrible 3" phases.
Now she's a pain, but I don't bother telling the parents. If she weren't one of my only full time kids, I'd tell her family where to go. But financially, I can't.
I guess this is just to vent, as there isn't anything I can do. I have to tell the parents that everything is fine, until I can replace them. So far all I've had in response to my ads are crazies.
Oh people...
Interesting...I have had nothing but crazies who I have interviewed for my under 2 spot too. Total head shakers!!

I stop telling parents too when I have a problem child and they don't care. In my house, this child would basically spend her entire day on time out. She would be constantly shadowed and I would sit right next to her constantly to make sure she didn't move a muscle to get off time out, and I would do that s**t all day! I am sure providers are thinking about the other kids in care and how these actions to deal with this kid would take you away from the rest of the group resulting in mediocre care for the other kids, but the alternative is a far worse situation in my case. Food throwing, kicking windows and doors.....much better to have some independent activities set up for the other kids before the problem child arrives and you would at least be in the same room with them, than allowing this other child to undoubtedly put themselves at risk of physical harm along with everyone else in the daycare. Of course the best thing to do for everyone in this situation would be to terminate with no notice since she is a danger to herself and the other children, but if you choose to keep her until you replace, in the best interest of all those children, you better be like flies on s**t with this kid. I'd even bring her to the bathroom with me and strap her in a highchair if she can't be trusted when you are forced to turn your attention to diaper changing and mealtimes. It will get real old, real quick once she learns you don't waiver and have absolutely zero tolerance. Maybe being British makes me someone with a no BS attitude to this type of behavior, but also my wonderful 15 year old spent a good majority of a year between age 3-4 on time out...I kid you not, I swear he was going to grow horns, throwing furniture, headbutting and biting. Took a long time but he got it!

I wish you luck, and be sure to have self care in place after hours because this will take its toll on you as I am sure you already know. Crossed fingers for a nice family to replace this child ASAP!