When is a behavior too much?

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I find it quite interesting that everyone is focusing on the interactions involving the toys when your first complaint is hitting! also the fact that this child is unresponsive when called and outside of a controlled area, your daycare setting. This child is high risk. Doesn't mean it can't be resolved but if he is hitting and running off, the liability is huge and it not only puts himself at risk but the other kids too. I would time out this child almost constantly and have some consequences for his actions rather than redirecting him all the time. It is a passive response in my opinion. Also he would have to play by me all day if he is hurting the other kids which is what it sounds like. He can't be trusted and so this is the result of his actions.

I would probably set a 4 week goal to see improvement in behavior, I personally would sit down with the parents, it isn't crossing the line. It is your home, your business and there are other children involved. If they don't get on board with you and collaborate by doing the same disciplining methods, then this won't go away. It is a bit ridiculous to expect a child who doesn't respond to his name, to be able to differentiate between daycare rules and home rules. That is expecting a bit much IMO. The 4 week period should be a probationary period too where if you don't see any improvement in his behavior at daycare, then childcare services will cease in the best interest of all children and their safety.