Every time I am transitioning a new 12 month old I just keep thinking of those stupid government think they know it alls that came up with this lame brain idea, lol, that 12 months was the ideal time to turn a child's world upside down. Any child rearing book will tell you that just as a 12 month old is about to experience their first steps, first words, first steps into self care like feeding, etc. that is of utmost importance that they have the security of familarity to do it. So hence we have the totally devastated child that is suddenly thrust into the unforgiving world and we wonder why they have issues. But reality being what it is daycare is just another milestone that while they may not like it is a part of their new reality and such is life. How well they cope will depend on what skills mom has taught them before 12 months. We do the best we can with what we are presented with. And in the grand scheme of things most of them come out the other end at school age well adjusted inspite of us all. I so miss getting young babies into daycare like when I started.