Okay, another question ladies: this same child is tormented by this whole process! He is obviously trained at home as his parents have told me, but he refuses to use the toilet for someone other than his parents. His parents told me he hasn't done it for grandma or anyone else either. He hates peeing or pooping in his pull-up...he gets this tortured look on his face and panics, but he will either refuse to go to the bathroom or when I get him there he will say 'all done' right away and start crying...he is ovioiusly holding it in and really upset about the whole thing, but just can't do it. He is very comfortable with me and being at my home and has been here since last May, but he has never liked diaper changes either...always asking to see his mommy. Is there anything I can do for this poor little guy to help him get over his fear? If I make him stay on the toilet longer he starts crying and gets really upset and I don't want that...but then he is really upset to do it in his pull-up too. I've tried singing to him while on the toilet to relax him, bringing toys in with him, running water, having other kids go first, tons of praise, drawing a bunny on his pull-up to keep it dry...I am out of ideas!