Older Kids: bibs/cups

[Peacefulbird]

I completely agree with Suzie_Homemaker

The biggest feature of my daycare and my philosophy is "independence"; as soon as they enter my daycare i find things for them to do independently.

Some times even at 12 months they're able to hold their cups. The use of bibs is ok until they show no more mess on them, I serve meals drinks etc. On trays so it contents the mess. They learn to place dirty dishes in a sink as soon as they can reach it. Sometimes they even try it sooner than that. They help putting their clothing away, milk and water cups in the sink, bedding and crafts away, they recognize their names on labels etc. Older ones dress themselves and have the choice to help younger ones or new ones etc.

I think as providers there is a huge misunderstanding in some cases (and I have seeing it many cases); ex.

1. Children come to your home to learn those skills.(unless you have another philosophy which also is understandable)

2. New parents rely on you to guide them and help their children to become fully operational, while supporting and guiding them during the early stages of development. We must also understand that parents get to spoil their children (but providers are most likely a guide for parents and children).

3. Children are capable and competent at very early age if given the opportunity.

4. The caregiver must be flexible, most of the time in this work is valuated mostly your patience and support rather than what is most convenient or easy for you (allowing them to learn especially if it is not in a harmful situation).

Children do not need bibs after they show that they can eat without mess. Tell them that and you'll see how they really eat carefully. Open cups I saw children competent of doing this at 12 months. I just pour milk little by little until they learn. And to avoid big spills or messes I use trays (like the ones used at fast food places).

I hope this helps.