New dcg wants to be carried all day & parents are uncooperative

[sheykavia]

I have a dcg who just turned 1 2 weeks ago. I have had her for almost a month, and at the moment she is the only full-time child I have & I do have 2 more starting in a week. The first week she cried all day everyday. She cried even harder when she thinks I'm walking away from her. She is also needing to be rocked AND held to sleep for about 15-20 minutes after she falls asleep before I can actually put her down. The first few days I was ok with giving her extra comfort because I know it's all new to her. But I am still having problems with her wanting to be carried all day. She cries to be carried & although I COULD do it now because it's just her & my 2 year old daughter I have, I don't because I don't want it becoming a habit for when I have all 3 spots filled. From my understanding, she is carried all day at home & she is picked up every time she whines or cries. Before coming into my care she was being cared for by grandma full-time. Mom keep sneaking off from her AND extending the goodbyes which is the worst things you could do.

I have tried talking to mom about not sneaking away & not extending the goodbyes but those were dismissed by "well she saw me leave the other day". That other day she was referring to was her second day so of course that day is going to be rough, regardless. After that talk, she is still trying to sneak away from her and is still extending the goodbyes. Another thing, is that she needs to be rocked AND held for a while after falling asleep before I can put her down. Again, sure it could work now, but I can't get into the habit of doing that. I have tried asking mom if there are any other ways she thinks would work for her because I can't do that when I have other children here to tend to & she told me that that's just how she sleeps & that "I'm fine with whatever you wanna do". One day I had my part-time boy here & it was nap time & I spent half an hour sitting rocking & holding her to sleep that by the time I was able to put her down, he had already fallen asleep where he was playing before. That day I knew I had to have a talk with mom because it was now affecting other children. When I told her she kind of giggled like she thought it was funny how he just fell asleep where he was. When she picks her up at the end of the day & I tell her how her day was & that she still wants to be carried all day, mom has a look on her face as if me NOT carrying her is upsetting her. I am starting to think that this is just how it's going to be from here on out, and that we will always be unable to work together. I should add that the new dcg has warmed up quite a bit & is able to enjoy herself while here, it's just that I'm getting the impression from mom that she expects and thinks I'm going to prioritize her needs over everyone else's.

For the last week I have been seriously considering giving her 2 weeks notice, because I feel like we are always going to bump heads and I don't want that for anybody. I think the only thing that is stopping me from doing it is that I don't want to be that person who seems like I am quitting on a baby. Would it be wrong of me to terminate care?