Quote Originally Posted by JARS View Post
How can I not feel guilty if I need to let the child go?
Because you have to make decision based on your business not just on being a carer. As carers, we care. We try to fix every situation and make it better for the child. However, we can't fix parents who aren't open to learning.

I suspected the issues were from over doing at home. I've experienced that myself. Sometimes, parents just don't know and other times, they do it intentionally because it's their last baby.

I think you have to sit down with these parents for an open and frank discussion and if things don't improve, for your own sanity you will have to let them go otherwise you are going to struggle for any support potentially until this child leaves for school.

You might have to explain that as adults, we have a responsibility to encourage a child to push their boundaries and the tantrums are purely the child's way of expressing their frustration at having expectations put on them. These parents might not like the idea of their child being expected to develop some independence however, they have a responsibility to install the self confidence to try new things, to not manipulate people by poor behavior (tantrums).

In not allowing this child to develop these basic skills they are starving his/her self confidence. This child will never try something new if they haven't been allowed to learn in a safe environment where each time they fail, they are encouraged to keep going. If this continues, this child won't be able to function in school, and later in the adult world. This fear of doing for themselves will leave this child highly dependent and frightened of taking a chance. It's abusive.