When would you do this? What is a good way to handle the inevitable questions.
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When would you do this? What is a good way to handle the inevitable questions.
We usually tell everyone (including our kids) pretty much right away. I just can't keep my own secrets, so we spill it pretty early!
If I had a history of early pregnancy loss or some such thing, I would wait until I was into the "safety zone". I don't feel that it's necessary to involve kids in a miscarriage, as they likely won't grasp it all and it may be too much for them.
As for the questions..... ugh! You know they're coming. So come up with some age appropriate explanations to have at the ready. My oldest is 10, and they took sex ed this year. Needless to say, he knows how it all came about, lol. (I think he was a little grossed out) My 7 1/2 year old didn't seem to care. He remembered when his sister was born, that was enough of a frame of reference for him. And my 4 year old has the typical questions. How did the baby get in you? How will she get out? Does the baby hurt you? And so on. I try to be honest (no "storks" here), but not un-necessarily explicit. She just needs general answers for the most part. We can fill in the details later, lol!
We have 4 kids...we also tell everyone pretty much right away, including the kids. Granted, my firstborn was only 5mo when I was expecting my 2nd baby, so he didn't understand. LOL.
I did lose a pregnancy at 12 weeks. I was glad that I had told them...by 12 weeks I was quite attached to the baby, and I needed their understanding and love for my recovery. That goes for friends and family too. I didn't regret telling anyone.
Emily- I totally agree- My hubby is always on the side that people do not need to know until it is apparent- and I feel that if I lose a baby, I need the help- yep I am a sap
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I have a little boy in my daycare who is expecting a little sister. They told him (and me) when they were only expecting for a few months because they want me to keep a space open for their new baby after their little boy goes to JK next Sept. I'm so honoured that this wonderful family wants to stay with me for a total of about 8 years with both children. What a compliment!
Anyway, this little 3 year old boy told me the other day that it is taking a long time for the new baby to come, ha! They were heading off for their 3d ultrasound when they picked up their son today so are sharing the excitement with the whole family.
Unfortunately, there were two Moms in my daycare who had miscarriages in early pregnancies last year and the year before. I was completely heartbroken for both of the Mommies and they had already told their daughters about the new babies. The one little girl said to me 'my Mommy has a piece missing' and the other little girl had been kissing the baby in her Mommy's tummy. It broke my heart too.