Termination Circumstances?

Hey there!

I am just wondering has anyone ever had to terminate a contract because dealing with the family just became too time consuming and emotionally draining?


Anyone ever run into this?

When kids act the same way at home as they do at daycare parents are more likely to take a less interested attitude in the sense of what they are really saying is look lady we deal with this too so what is your point - what do you expect us to do about it. When he is with you you deal with him I have my own work issues to deal with. Have even had parents come right out and say that - hense as I posted in another thread I tend to leave parents out of it and just handle it my own way and then if my ways don't work then tell the parents as a way of warning them child is treading on thin ice.

Playfelt- it's like you ca read my mind!!! This is EXACTLY what is going on!! I think I am going to take a page from your book on this!

We talk a lot about parents doing whatever make their days easier and we should be allowed to do the same. Sometimes the best thing is not terminating and going without income it is changing the rules to be in our favour. Then if that doesn't work well we do have to admit ok I tried and I am not willing to try any more and want my life back and an open space is worth the sanity.

Thanks so much playfelt- I really couldn't agree more and I appreciate the support!

Play felt is dead on .... Unless its something major and ongoing that i cant handle myself I rarely mention a thing to the parents.

I have a family where I know dcg is the "queen." She is almost 2 and totally manipulates both parents, but as soon as they walk out...that turns off and she is a totally different child in the sense that if she whines I don't hear.

I used to bring it up almost daily....but now I don't even, same with little things like eating sleeping and all that...As long as she isn't ill, plays well, eats for the most part and seems happy.... I just say she had a good day....

I also had a mom that would count diapers so you know what? I just took 2 extra/day put then in a box in a store room and just used them if dck needed more changes then the mom sent diapers for. (this kid was changed at least 3x day)

I think this is great advice-thanks everyone!

Yes, I absolutly agree. The parents don't need to know every time a toy is grabbed or feelings are hurt. I have rules in my house and the kids learn very quickly that they need to get on board. If I go to the parents with every little issue then i feel like I'm not doing my job.

If I have a child that is really acting out then I detail specifically the behaviour that I am not willing to deal with. And it's that simple... Jimmy is pushing children aggressively, if he doesn't stop then he will no longer be welcome here. I no longer consult with the parent to see what they do to stop the pushing at home and get on the same boat. Because obviously, what they're doing... isn't working! So, I discipline as I see fit and move on.

Yes, I have terminted because the family was just too emotionally draining. It was always something.. a late pick up... a text mid day saying "don't feel cows milk, I just read an article" Not sending the right clothes. asking about meals every single day. Commenting on a dirty knee... lol. It's was exhausting just hearing about it all. So, I marked them down for 3 lates and off they went. (I rarely terminate for lates unless there are other issues going on)

Thanks so much everyone!