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I have done pics and video clips for a nervous new mom. I told her I could only do it for the first few days. She really appreciated it and it was no big deal for me. She had originally wanted to stay and watch and I explained to her nicely why she couldn't and then offered the videos instead.
I have a strict policy about others coming in and seeing the kids. I would tell the mom no but because then you would need permission from the other parents because she wants to stay for 3 hours and she needs to have a police clearance.
Be careful on sharing the video clips because they will contain images of the other kids in care if she wants to see her son interacting.
No way would a parent be coming and just hanging out that long - an hour for integration at the start is enough nerve wracking.
There is something else going on that has nothing to do with daycare. Ask her why she has concerns that he might not be behaving properly or able to deal with how a group works or whatever it is she wanted to observe. She may have a friend whose getting complaints about her child. Something that has nothign to do with you set this off. Once those fears are put to rest the requests will probably stop.
I would not allow Skype conference with the kids. There is a possibility that she keeps a video or pics of the day through Skype where other kids faces will appear violating their privacy. Parents know I am the only one that takes pics and videos of the kids in the daycare so I can protect everybody's privacy. You can explain something in that effect. I have an open door policy and parents can show anytime. I even interview during daycare hours. But this is because I have chosen to do it. No parent has pushed me to do so. When we start doing "favors" to parents they think they are entitle to request more and more. My advice, do what you feel comfortable with. You may even get nervous if you do not feel comfortable and not be yourself and kids could sense that and act out and that DOES NOT mean you are not a great provider the rest of the days.
Trust. That's what seems to be missing with this parent. I agree that if the Mom is there the child will not participate normally or behave because he will think his Mom is there to take him home. I would not allow video of my daycare to be taken because you would not have any guarantee that this would not be shared on some other social media in a negative or unprofessional way.
You must tell the dcMom that you will keep her up to date on all the issues and about her child's day but you are a busy woman and you are there to care for ALL the children ALL the time and can't allow your days to be disrupted. Also, you can also mention that your liability may be questioned if there were other people in the home. Good luck!