Can you believe this?

LOL. I actually know someone who had their provider drop off their children at their dads house on Christmas eve just to avoid seeing him.

It happens far too often and it's damaging! Can you imagine how those kids felt? Wondering why their daycare lady had to pick them up at one house and drop them off at another? Kids are smart.

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Originally Posted by mom-in-alberta

Ah, I see now.
Nope, still wouldn't do it, I don't think. Simply because logistically, it wouldn't work. It would mean that I would have to sit in my coatroom with said child, leaving all the other children unsupervised for however long. Because I certainly will not welcome a sick child into the daycare, even for 10 min. Not to mention, it wouldn't make sense to have him take off his shoes and coat, then play for 5 min, only to be told it's time to leave.
How very sad that it is impossible for them to even do a kid-exchange without it getting ugly. :(

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I would not do it for the same reason and also because I just would not like to get in the middle of my families personal issues.

Basically the whole thing felt inappropriate to me. They should be able to get it together enough to just hand over their child. I was concerned about getting involved in that way. The drop off's and pick ups now are not an issue as he spends his day with me so it is not awkward for me/the child as just the other parent picks up.

It was much easier to say "no" as he was home sick for the day but even if he wasn't if would have been weird. I think they can do more for their kid if they put on their brave faces and do the exchange. If the parents can be human/normal in front of each other then maybe this child won't feel so many conflicting loyalties.

There are many reasons for split parents to avoid one another, ie abuse, emotional turmoil (that can affect the parent to the point of it briefly interfering with their parenting).

Of course, you have every right to refuse to be the drop off point, but I can think of many things that would be beneficial to the child by the parents not having any interaction. I don't think this move is childish, rather, probably a very grown up and responsible decision.

I'd do it in a heartbeat. I am pro-anything that makes life easier for a solo parent. :)