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My son went through this...he was about 4 years old and we never figured out why he did it. Got checked by the doctor and was given an ok. He would go to the washroom every 10-15 mins sometimes, just to get a few drops out. It was weird, and frustrating at times...I would suggest putting them on a schedule. This phased passed within 4-6 weeks if memory serves.
I don't have school agers but I have an almost 4 year old that copies the younger ones like crazy!! When I send the 2 year old to use the little potty the 4 year old says she needs to go too. I was sending them both at the same time as the 4 year old uses the big toilet but then I caught on she wasn't going, she was just wanting to copy the 2 year old. So now I tell her she has to wait until the 2 year old is finished and out of the washroom before she can go in and I'd say 9x out of 10 she never does end up going in because she never truly needed to go anyways.
I wouldn't forbid a child from going but I would say they can wait 5 minutes. If they truly need to go they will tell you. They are school agers and are capable of holding it for 5 minutes.
I do want to be clear, I do not let any of the dck go to the bathroom with anyone else, they all go in by themselves and have the door shut behind them for privacy. I do agree it has become a habit as the doctor has told this dcm that nothing is wrong with her children so they should be able to go longer than 20-30 min. without peeing especially after they have gone the first time. bottom line is I do not like the way she handled this at all, I am not a child and have been doing daycare for over 27 years. I know lots of people who have that cute little sign posted on their bathroom walls, if it's yellow, let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down. some people have septic systems, wells, etc. I really did not think it was a huge deal to have the two of them go and then flush, but obv. it was to the mom so I won't do it again. just don't like being told how to run "my" business and this is not the first time I've had encounters with this mom.:thumbdown:
I'm sorry, but what a stupid, nit-picky thing for her to complain about. This SCREAMS "I want to complain about something, and this is all I could come up with." It sounds ridiculous, and she sounds like a giant pain in the a**.
I have no advice, but I agree that she's in the wrong for barging in and acting like she can tell you what to do.
Honestly just don't flush the toilet. She will never know. I am a "if it's yellow keep it mellow"kinda gal...not all the time but sometimes. I don't see the big deal UNLESS you have little ones who like to explore the toilet. She doesn't get to decide whether or not you flush the toilet!Quote:
Originally Posted by martymonty
yeah, wish it was that easy, but she's obviously drilling her kids when she gets home for that to even come up. I have been doing it this way since the summer and now all of a sudden it comes up. she has told them that they are to flush each and every time they go to the washroom so guess if they go tons, it's going to get flushed tons, lol. and I don't mean to sound nit picky, I just seriously do not understand what the big deal is. as kids we always did it this way, our girls were raised that way, they never flushed every time, but hey, not going to argue with her over something like this. just some people, ughhhhhh :(
Try this trick:
http://www.wikihow.com/Convert-Any-T...w-Flush-Toilet
The parent's response would really chap my ass as well.
Well you don't have to argue with her because you don't work for her .... You run your own business providing a service of which she requires. You make the rules in your house ..... Seems pretty simple to me .
My father always did this right from when we were wee children but back then he used a brickQuote:
Originally Posted by kimg
It sounds like you're more frustrated with Mom than the girls. I would have an honest conversation with her. Sat "I wanted to address our conversation from the other day regarding flushing the toilet. I want to just make things clear that this is my business that I run out of my home, that I can run how I see fit. When you used the word "forbid", it did not sit well with me at all and I want to be sure that in the future you show more respect for how I choose to run my business and if you have an issue with anything, then feel free to discuss your feelings with me without making orders." Or something along those lines. I do't think you'll feel better until you get it off your chest!