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Well Torontokids, I've done all the things you listed and do them on a consistent basis. Everywhere we go I get compliments on having such well behaved children all around me and they are awesome kids if I do say so myself. They listen to me and I'm very proud of them. But a 17 month old who has been seriously biting for over a month both at home and at daycare and isn't stopping is a whole other story. I only have 4 clients right now and 2 of them have taken home children with deep bites on their arms. I've only had one other biter in care, but this one is giving us a run for our money!
I say it all the time and I mean it. I'm here to protect ALL the children, for all the good things and from sickness and injury.
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* UPDATE *
It's been an interesting read about what others would do in this situation. I have been on the fence waaay to long with this dcb. The final straw was this Friday. :rolleyes:
DCB was giving his father a very difficult time at drop off (they were late as well). Instead of just leaving, dcd kept giving in to dcb's whiny crying. Twice he took him outside to calm down. The third time he read my text that DCB was late and please feed breakfast at home prior to coming to daycare. So he took him home to eat and calm down .
I gave him the park we will be at to meet us there when dcb was finished eating his breakfast. They came at 10:15. DCB was fine the whole day. Until the very end. I was saying goodbye to one of my graduating dcg's and her mom. We are at the top of the stairs and dcb is holding the other boy by the collar and not allowing him to go up the stairs. This is the same dcb he was holding back whom he has bitten to many times. When I gave my stern "DCB, let DCB2 go right now!" He lunged and tried to bite his neck/back?. Right in front of my eyes and the other dcm as well. :no:
3 min. later his mom came. I explained what happened and she seemed waaay more annoyed at DCB2 (the bitee). Then she sends me some garbled text about how he is not getting a treat tonite and that she also feels that he is not welcome at my daycare"...Ya think?
The icing....I checked out her facebook page to see if she had posted anything about this latest incident at daycare (I'm not a facebook friend of hers, I just took a chance) She had written a post about dcb's "frenemy". She told her friends that he only bites once every 2 or 3 weeks :ohmy: More like 2 x a week. Easily. And she referred to me as the "sitter". That was it for me.
To me it is very clear that this is dcb's way of "controlling" a situation. He could get so mad, that he wants to bite. What happens when I'm not in the same room and he chooses to demonstrate his control over another child. What if it's a bad bite. And I could have prevented it. I shudder. I'd be a bad provider for not protecting the others. Too much stress. He's got to go.
Termination letter and conversation on Tuesday at drop off.
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You're absolutely right ! Out he goes. I wouldn't even wait until Tuesday. If I saw a child be that aggressive in front of me I wouldn't allow the child back into my care. No notice.
You're right to protect the safety of the other kids.
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sounds like mom just isn't getting it. Don't worry, when he starts being kicked out of more and more daycares, she'll then do something about it.
my sister was telling me that they have friends who's ds was in a center daycare. She tells me that the dad was saying how the ds was kicked out for "biting one time" so I tell my sister that isn't true, most have a 3 times policy and most places want parents to do something about it. Well my sister starts to laugh and says "well his parents think its funny that he's biting the kids and in their house, the boy rules the roost" funny how parents down play incidents just so they don't look like the bad guy.
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So I did it!! Feels like a huge weight has been lifted. I've given them two weeks notice, with the clause that if dcb bites or hurts anyone in the daycare, he is terminated instantly...This is day 2. I don't think he will last the entire 2 weeks without an incident. Cannot wait for the next family to come onboard. It can only go "UP" from here right? :D Looking forward to the whole shift in dynamics in my little daycare :yes:
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I doubt he will get through the 2 weeks either. Mom and Dad don't get it, so the kid won't either.
Next time he bites, completely exclude him from the group. Give the parents a very short time frame to get him out of there. Done, done and DONE. I have no patience for clueless parents.
